Whether it’s consciously or sub-consciously, we compare ourselves to other people. Whether it be on bodily appearance, facial appearance, their intelligence, humour, lives, relationships or wealth, we all do it.
Summer, statistically, heightens the rate of comparison especially of body image, it seems that Instagram becomes an atmosphere that celebrates ‘bikini bodies’ and who has the best figure, often forgetting that our bodies do incredible things and are healthy even if you do get rolls when you sit down or bend over. See, this is the danger of comparison, it makes you believe that you aren’t normal, or attractive or healthy because you don’t look like the people on the TV. Take ‘Love Island’ for example, gorgeous, toned, young men and women all locked up in one villa for the whole nation to watch and not one of them look bad, no one actually has any bit of flesh that isn’t joined to muscle, no one has legs that wobble a bit when they walk, none of their thighs touch when they walk, they all look gorgeous all the time, they all have great clothes, lovely hair and never ever get a sunburn. However, we are tricking ourselves if we compare ourselves to these people, because I bet you weren’t aware that when you sat and stared at Megan’s (Love Island) frankly flawless face you didn’t know that actually there is unlimited and free Rimell make up in the Villa. There is also a range of Missguided clothes that they can choose from, there is an indoor hair-stylist for them and let’s not forget, these people have trained solidly in the gym knowing full well the whole nation is going to see them in basically underwear. So, next time you feel yourself comparing your hair to their hair, remember that they don’t always do their own hair, a professional does.
I think we often forget that not everyone’s lives are as they seem, and still, we compare ourselves to them and actually put ourselves down because of it. When in actual fact 9 times out of 10, you are healthy, you are successful, you are funny, you have a great relationship and you spend your life with those you love. It’s unfair on yourself to be comparing yourself to people like Kim Kardashian, I think we are all guilty of logging onto Instagram and scrolling down your feed to see Kim K posing in next to nothing or just nothing and staring, wondering why you don’t look like that and then punishing your healthy and wonderful body. But this is unfair, there is no point comparing yourself to Kim K because most of us, if not all of us, live a very different life to her. We don’t have the money for the best personal trainer, nor a gym in our home, or the skincare treatment she gets, or the clothes she buys and gets altered to suit her even more. It would be like comparing a fish and a monkey on how well they can climb up trees. It makes no sense.
So why don’t we stop? Why don’t we, instead of looking at those hideous rolls of flesh on our stomachs, look at our cute rolls of fat on our stomachs which are there to protect our insides in a season of illness or cold temperatures, that are fun to play with and poke. Why don’t we, instead of staring at our big round arms in the mirror, look at our arms that allow us to dance, to walk, to run, to get dressed and even shower. Instead of wishing our boobs were bigger, can’t we just appreciate the perkiness? Instead of comparing your body to someone else’s, why don’t we appreciate our bodies, our hair, our intelligence, our humour, our lives, our families and our health before looking at anyone else’s. I think that sounds a plan.