For the girls (boys too if you like)

Faith

For the girls (boys too if you like)

This post has been on my heart for a very long time, I am so excited to share this with you all because I truly believe that this can change things. It is so hard to express the vastness of this subject in written words, there is so much more to this that I would love to share so please message me with any questions (Instagram name is at the bottom).

 

My sense of worth and value has been crushed, confused and challenged a lot in the past 4 years of my life. In the last 6 months I have finally begun to understand that so much can change in people’s lives when your worth is placed in a concrete place, God. Looking around at the people I grew up with and that surround me I can see people placing their value in many different things that inevitably kill their sense of worth and value. This needs to stop because we are all daughters of the King and once you realise that you are valued as a human, you begin to understand what you deserve and therefore you make better decisions. Placing your sense of value and confidence in the things I have mentioned below (and many more) is so destructive to your spirit and you as a person and my heart is to really encourage, challenge and show you that you can find freedom from this destruction and weight in God. Trust me, I have true confidence in that fact. I do not mean any of this in judgment or harshness, this comes from a place of compassion and passion to change the game for girls in particular because this is not ok.

 

Looking around at the culture that surrounds us, it is evident that some people think that their value can be found in the validation of a boy through sex (I say boy because any male who sells you the idea that your value is found in sex is a boy NOT a man). This is probably one of the most destructive things I have seen, and it is destroying my friends and so many more. The idea that having sex with the boy that doesn’t love you will give you value is a lie. The idea that he will end up loving you and therefore valuing you for giving him sex is also a lie. The first issue with this is that if the only way you think that you will be valued by this boy is through sex then he isn’t ‘the one’ and if he didn’t value you before sex, why would he after? Your sex is not where your value is found, anyone who teaches you that is wrong. You do not have to have sex to be valued and your value is not and should not be found in sex because that is so detrimental to your spirit. You are a person, not an object. Our biggest desire is to be loved and full known and that is what we all strive for, but we already are loved and full known by God.

 

Secondly, having a flat stomach doesn’t give you worth or value. The world that surrounds us has become so unhealthily obsessed with body image, working out, eating all kinds of weird diets, drinking smoothies and in some cases, not eating at all. My Instagram discovery page is full of girls with incredibly toned bodies who look amazing and it leaves me feeling nothing but lack of worth. So much so that I have seriously considered deleting Instagram because I feel so low that I don’t look like them. I finally realised that I was placing my worth in something that was so subjective, weak and bound to break at some point. Outward appearance always changes in life and so to put your confidence and worth primarily or wholly into it, you will never be firm in your worth. Don’t misunderstand, working out and eating well is so important, but it should not define you. Your value is not based on your body at all and don’t for a second believe that it is.

 

Thirdly, your value is not determined by your relationship status. Single or not, your worth is not dependant on that. Your worth is not determined by experiences in previous relationships. Your worth is not determined on your lack of experience with relationships. Your worth is not determined or subject to any other human at all!

 

Your sense of worth should not come from social media, your body image, the way others have treated you, others’ opinions of you, your grades, your followers to following ratio, if that boy messages you first or not.

 

I am convinced that when you place your value or worth in anything other than God, your sense of value will only be destroyed in one way or another. For so long I placed most of my sense of value and worth in how other people saw me or how people treated me. In the last 4 years a lot in my life has changed and because of those experiences and that I placed my value in people, I completely lost a sense of who I was, my confidence, what I deserved and what I don’t. That’s when it occurred to me that if I was to place my confidence and worth in God, who created me, it could never be broken again. How do you break anything that is rooted in eternity? You can’t.

God picked you, created you, called you, planned you, gave you a purpose for all seasons of life, God loves you, God liberates you and God rejoices in you. By placing your value back into God, this liberates you from having your value questioned and confidence crushed by finding your worth in things that aren’t eternal.

 

So, stop sleeping with the boy who doesn’t love you or value you. You are worth so much more. Start seeing how when your value is in God then you are free, you’re valued, you’re a boss to be treasured and not an object to be used. You’re your very own Michelle Obama.

Stop obsessing with how many inches are coming off your waist and believing that when you look like Kim Kardashian then you will be valued. Stop selling yourself the lie that your value is determined by how you look, this is a dead end.

 

Your value and worth should be found only in God and in the recognition that (say what follows, out loud, with me) ‘I am the daughter of a King who is not moved by the world for my God is with me and goes before me. I do not fear because I am his.’ You are the daughter of God, that is where your value is found!

 

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Have a blessed week,

-L

Joy

Faith

It’s basically December, so I’ve recently started to listen to Christmas music again. I’ve also started watching Christmas films and actually decorated my Uni flat. While doing all of this, I began to realise something that has changed my life.

 

The past 6 months have been really hard for many reasons, I’ve found myself in the darkest bits of my life and really struggling with loss of confidence, anxiety and sleeplessness. It was hard. Yet all of that time I had a verse and lyric stuck in my head and I could not figure out why. ‘The joy of the Lord is my strength’ Nehemiah 8:10. It was repeating in my mind, day after day, month after month. When I moved to Uni, my Dad drew me a scribe for my wall and the centre of it said, ‘The Joy of the Lord is my Strength’, and so I saw it day after day, month after month. I never understood that verse and I didn’t know why it was stuck in my head. So, then I decided one lunch time to listen to Rend Collective’s Christmas album and ‘Joy to the World’ came on. Something clicked.

 

Joy is not an emotion, joy is not the same as happiness or the same as laughter or having fun, joy is a state of mind or way of life. When the Bible says, ‘the joy of the Lord is my strength’, this is a liberation, a freedom and a promise on which we can live! It is steadfast. The joy that God provides is enough to give us strength to get up and go, to carry on when we can’t. It is the strength to love yourself when you can no longer see your worth, the strength to get up every morning when you don’t see the point, the strength to be confident in God because his love and his joy carries you in the darkness of the night and in the light of day. The joy God promises to give you is life-changing, it is freedom from being alone and weak because you can live in God’s joy and strength. Although, let’s be clear, this is not a promise to never be sad, or never be tired or never have those days, it however, is a promise that joy is readily available through God all of the time. It is not a subjective emotion but an objective state of mind and a way that we can live our lives.

 

This promise, along with changing my darkness into light, actually showed me that when we sing songs at Christmas like ‘Joy to the World’, this is so significant! In Jesus we have a joy that is not affected by anyone or anything. Christmas is a time for celebration for many reasons, but this Christmas I hope and pray that it becomes obvious and significant in your life that because Jesus was born, we have Joy, eternal, objective, truthful and amazing joy that we can live in always!

 

May the joy of the Lord always be your strength,

 

-L

 

There is much more I would love to say – it’s hard to express the significance that this realisation has had on me in writing. I hope this helps someone, I would love to hear from anyone so please message me on Instagram: libbyjaxon or reply below.

Uncomfortable

Faith

The title above literally is the one word to describe my life right now!

What if comfort isn’t the goal?

We live our lives constantly chasing after what is comfortable and we therefore think that these things are ‘good’. Think about it practically, we eat ‘comfort food’ (chocolate for me) when we’ve had a bad day because we want something to make us feel some sort of safety. We don’t take those opportunities to meet different and new people because that might be awkward and not very comfortable at all. We make ourselves have daily routines to feel comfortable in our days. Even down to wearing PJs because they’re loose and we don’t have to ‘suck in’ and therefore they have the upmost comfort.

These are all things that we are prone to do because being uncomfortable is awkward and weird and it’s quite frankly horrible. So then, why does God call us to be uncomfortable?

‘Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation’

Could you imagine how uncomfortable it would be to start preaching the gospel to literally everyone? The backlash would be something incredible and I doubt that I am only speaking for myself when I say that preaching the gospel to the world sounds like something they’d rather someone else do because you don’t want to feel like a weirdo, someone that sticks out, someone that’s different to the mould that society now has created. And why don’t we want to feel this way? Because it’s uncomfortable.

BUT, what if I told you that actually you feeling like this is purely evidence that you belong in heaven with God. If we felt at home in this world, if we felt normal when we told our friends that we spent our Friday night with our youth group or that we spent the Easter holidays on a church holiday, then we would be destined for right here. We feel uncomfortable because we feel weird because we are different, we are called to a different place for a purpose that is much greater than any of our worries about being uncomfortable or weird. If we felt normal telling other people that we believe in a God who is both man and God at the same time, is 3 in one and that he came back to life after being murdered by Romans, then the likelihood is, we are telling people who already know and believe the same thing. But because we are telling people that don’t believe this, we become even more aware of just how weird it all is. Yet, take hope in your uncomfortability because it only means that your purpose is heaven, your home is heaven not the world.

As C.S Lewis puts it ‘If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world.’

You see recently I have realised that being uncomfortable means that you are doing something right. I began to realise that we only have one life, and these decisions that we make don’t only effect us but they effect generations to come. I know that I want my life to reflect that I believe that Jesus came and died for me to have life and life in all its fullness (John 10:10) and I want my life to be for his life in order for more to know this love that I am so wrapped up in. I sound like a lunatic right? I am aware of this and that’s why I feel awkward and uncomfortable half the time but this is all I want for my life and so my decisions even down to the way I talk must reflect that. My passion cannot and will not be held back purely because I feel uncomfortable because what is uncomfort in the face of God? Absolutely nothing.

So, with all this said, it brings me back to a quote by Paul David Tripp ‘The goal of the Gospel isn’t human comfort but human transformation.’ Nowhere in the Bible does Jesus say that comfort is the goal, so why do we strive for it?

Please leave a comment or message me directly through my Instagram ‘libbyjaxon’ with any questions or thoughts, I’d love to hear them!

Also, if you have any prayer requests feel free to send them through.

-L

Comparison kills, but you can prevent it.

Lifestyle

Whether it’s consciously or sub-consciously, we compare ourselves to other people. Whether it be on bodily appearance, facial appearance, their intelligence, humour, lives, relationships or wealth, we all do it.  

Summer, statistically, heightens the rate of comparison especially of body image, it seems that Instagram becomes an atmosphere that celebrates ‘bikini bodies’ and who has the best figure, often forgetting that our bodies do incredible things and are healthy even if you do get rolls when you sit down or bend over. See, this is the danger of comparison, it makes you believe that you aren’t normal, or attractive or healthy because you don’t look like the people on the TV. Take ‘Love Island’ for example, gorgeous, toned, young men and women all locked up in one villa for the whole nation to watch and not one of them look bad, no one actually has any bit of flesh that isn’t joined to muscle, no one has legs that wobble a bit when they walk, none of their thighs touch when they walk, they all look gorgeous all the time, they all have great clothes, lovely hair and never ever get a sunburn. However, we are tricking ourselves if we compare ourselves to these people, because I bet you weren’t aware that when you sat and stared at Megan’s (Love Island) frankly flawless face you didn’t know that actually there is unlimited and free Rimell make up in the Villa. There is also a range of Missguided clothes that they can choose from, there is an indoor hair-stylist for them and let’s not forget, these people have trained solidly in the gym knowing full well the whole nation is going to see them in basically underwear. So, next time you feel yourself comparing your hair to their hair, remember that they don’t always do their own hair, a professional does.  

I think we often forget that not everyone’s lives are as they seem, and still, we compare ourselves to them and actually put ourselves down because of it. When in actual fact 9 times out of 10, you are healthy, you are successful, you are funny, you have a great relationship and you spend your life with those you love. It’s unfair on yourself to be comparing yourself to people like Kim Kardashian, I think we are all guilty of logging onto Instagram and scrolling down your feed to see Kim K posing in next to nothing or just nothing and staring, wondering why you don’t look like that and then punishing your healthy and wonderful body. But this is unfair, there is no point comparing yourself to Kim K because most of us, if not all of us, live a very different life to her. We don’t have the money for the best personal trainer, nor a gym in our home, or the skincare treatment she gets, or the clothes she buys and gets altered to suit her even more. It would be like comparing a fish and a monkey on how well they can climb up trees. It makes no sense.  

So why don’t we stop? Why don’t we, instead of looking at those hideous rolls of flesh on our stomachs, look at our cute rolls of fat on our stomachs which are there to protect our insides in a season of illness or cold temperatures, that are fun to play with and poke. Why don’t we, instead of staring at our big round arms in the mirror, look at our arms that allow us to dance, to walk, to run, to get dressed and even shower. Instead of wishing our boobs were bigger, can’t we just appreciate the perkiness? Instead of comparing your body to someone else’s, why don’t we appreciate our bodies, our hair, our intelligence, our humour, our lives, our families and our health before looking at anyone else’s. I think that sounds a plan.  

-L

What does Easter really mean for us?

Faith, Uncategorized

I found it was really well explained in the book of Romans. It’s found in the New Testament, written by Paul probably around the year 57AD, it has 16 chapters and 9,447 words. I think it’s so important to really read into Romans 8:37-39, which states, ‘No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.’ 

So, let’s take it in steps and see what it really means.

Let’s take the first sentence, ‘No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.‘In all these things’, is referring to different situations in life, which he later explains but the emphasis here on ‘all’ is incredible. In that Paul is stating that from his understanding of Jesus (which is probably more than we will understand in our lifetime!) that the life, the death and the resurrection of Jesus is so that in every single situation we could possibly face in life, we are ‘more than conquerors through him who loved us.’ Meaning that through Jesus, through the death and resurrection of Jesus, you are a conqueror to everything that can face your way.

Paul continues, ‘For I am convinced’, convinced is defined in the dictionary to be ‘completely certain about something’, which has great significance within this passage as Paul describes what the death and resurrection of Jesus actually means, pragmatically, to us, he is certain of it! Absolutely sure, it’s like fact for him. We should be so encouraged by this, Paul knows that this is what Jesus has done for all of us and so we should all take confidence in it too.

‘Neither death nor life’ – People find death a scary thing, it seems permanent. Death isn’t right, but Paul is certain that even death, cannot and will not separate you from God’s love. So, even in the most permanent thing humans can comprehend, can’t separate us from the love of God! So, of course, it goes, that nothing in life can either. No illness, no fallout, no crime, no sin, no relationship, no grade, no job, no human can literally ever take us away from God’s love. There is freedom in God’s love.

‘Neither angels nor demons’ – Effectively meaning that anything in any realm can’t separate us from God’s love.

‘Neither the present nor the future’ – Many people are fearful of the future and what it might bring, whether you’ll get the grade, marry ‘the one’, whether your kids will graduate, whether your money will make it that long and so on. Yet here, Paul is promising us that in any concern whether it be now or in the future, the one thing that is constant and will never change is God’s love for you. No decision, no position or choice could possibly take this away from you.

Nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything in all creation’ – Here, Paul is eliminating anything you could possibly think of. But this has a massive importance because he is stressing to us that literally nothing can separate us from the love of God. All these things were defeated, when Jesus was on the cross and died for you and I.

This is Easter. This is the love that takes shame away, and sets you completely free, because what have you to fear? NOTHING! You are, and you will be loved for all of the days, through all of the situations you go through, in every decision and even in death, you are connected to the love that sets souls free. So be happy, rejoice and live in this freedom because that is the reason for the cross, that is the reason for resurrection. You are so loved.

-L

Be Content

Faith

“Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said “never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:35

Reads easily enough, but the Bible becomes real and relevant when you see how it might fit with your life. So, the first question would be:

What do you have?

This question, I find, we state all the material things we have. A car, a house, the newest phone, food and water and so the list continues. All of these are great things to have and those who have them are, of course, fortunate and we should be massively thankful. Yet, these are the easy things to think of, what about the people in your life? Your family, whether biological, adopted, however dysfunctional you think they are, the people who get you through, day by day. Your friends, your actual friends, the ones that get you, that see value in you, the ones that build you up, they are people to be thankful for. Some of you may have a SO (significant other), be thankful for them, they help you get through day by day.

However, the things we hardly ever think about are the things we might take for granted, but they play a crucial part in who we are, how we were made, and what gets us through days, months and years. Interest and passions, these shape us, give up energy to go out and do what we do. They create culture, create differences and create something for us to learn about and get involved in. Human Rights, we should never forget how lucky we are to have these. Joy and humour, literally makes us feel better, it is known that when we laugh, we actually release endorphins (the same hormone that is released during exercise that makes us feel good) meaning that laughing, caused by joy and humour makes us feel good. Freedom of speech, without which I couldn’t be doing this, no movements would have been caused, no change would have been made and well, we would be silenced.

So, when God calls us to be content with what we have and not get obsessed with what money can get us, we can see that we have a lot. Without which we would not be who we are. Be content in this, content in your joy, content in your humour, content in your peace, content in your rights, content in your interests, content in your passions and content in any health that you have.

Does this mean money is evil?

It’s crucial to notice that within the verse it states ‘love of money’, not ‘money’. Some people are blessed with money, some work hard for money, and some don’t have any money, this verse is not about slamming those with money, but about stopping those who are in love with money. Those who are obsessed with money, do everything to get it, think about it time and time again, and end up revolving around it. If this is you, and you’re struggling, I feel urged to point out that you cannot be alone in this, this was an issue in 65 AD when Hebrews was written. Further, I believe that the Bible is words inspired by God, so God understands you in your struggle with this too. All will be well.

Please feel free to comment and get involved,

-L

10 Reasons why Monday’s are actually great

Lifestyle
  1. They offer a new start every week.

    A fresh start with healthy eating, your new hobby that you promised yourself you’d start but didn’t, your promise that you’d be nicer to people, your new Gym routine, getting 8 hours sleep every night. It’s like having a New Years every week.

  2. Re-find your motivation

    Monday gives you an opportunity to get motivated again. Get moving, do what makes you motivated and excited, make sure you have the best week yet!

  3. Perfect time to set new goals

    Break old habits, set a mark that you want to get on your exam, a length you want to run. Monday gives you the perfect place to start these new goals and work towards them.

  4. You have a whole week to accomplish what you want to get done.

    You have a brand new 7 days to accomplish absolutely everything that you need to accomplish, which all start with Monday, your first day to get things sorted and solved to organise yourself in preparation for the following days.

  5. TV shows

    Everyone knows that all of the best TV shows start on Monday’s, there is always at least two decent shows on a Monday night.

  6. Hating it doesn’t help

    You can’t go on hating that much of life, hating 52 days of the year will not help with dealing with the day anyway. 

  7.  Clean hair!

    Yesterday was Sunday. Sunday means hair wash day, so Monday means clean and shiny hair to flick around with pride!

  8. Monday means less rain

    According to statistics, Monday is the least rainy day in the week, giving you all the more reason to get out there and do something that you would previously be putting off because of the weather.

  9. One step closer to the weekend

    Yes, only 4 more days before the weekend start, you’ve done one get up, what’s four more?

  10. All the other reasons

    There will be over 5,000 weddings, 10,000 childbirths and 42 million hugs. 600 people will get a promotion, 600 dogs will be adopted, 35,000 balloons sold and 800,000 skittles sold. Finally, the words ‘I love you” will be said over 9 million times. Enjoy Monday.

    -L

5 Things to do with all your Christmas chocolate 

Lifestyle

Chocolate, sweets and money are the 3 most common things my family buy me for Christmas, so by January time I’m obese but slightly rich. So, here are 5 things that I have previously done with all my chocolate that save me eating my body weight and means that other people get a little treat too.

  1. Chocolate Fondue – the best thing for a cosy night in with friends and family. It’s practically healthy too if you use fruit, I mean can you really have strawberries without chocolate? All you need is your favourite chocolate, a microwave, some fruit or marshmallows and some skewers and you’re all set.
  2. Chocolate cake – cupcakes or a big cake it doesn’t matter, this way you get to enjoy some baking and get to spread some love in this gloomy post-Christmas period. Just make sure you have some cute cupcake cases to go with it.
  3. Brownies – I don’t know why these haven’t made it to the top of the list if I’m honest but oh well. Brownies go with anything, custard, cream, ice cream, hot and even cold. Plus you can put endless amounts of chocolate in it so you can get rid of a lot of your chocolate in just one go. For the best brownies, I use BBC good food brownie recipe.
  4. Cookies – who doesn’t love a good cookie? Warm, gooey, melt in the mouth good cookies. The perfect way to light up anyone’s day, and use up even more of your chocolate. I find American recipes are the best, but any work.
  5. Smore’s – perfect for any time of the year, marshmallow’s, biscuit (chocolate digestive is THE best) and a little fire.

Hope this helps with having 10 Kilos of chocolate,

Enjoy,

-L